Laziness or Love? The Dating Trap of Generative AI
In an Oregon wine country barn reeking of stealth wealth, I recently found myself at a friend's rehearsal dinner, surrounded by rustic-chic décor and polite conversation. But what stuck out was when my future groom-to-be mentioned using generative AI to plan the initial stages of his wedding – with a human wedding planner, no less. My response? Polite but firm: if someone uses ChatGPT for even one aspect of our relationship, there will be no wedding.
As I've weighed in on social media and with friends, my stance against using generative AI has taken shape as a new non-negotiable in dating: if you can't think for yourself, don't date me. For those who are skeptical or have concerns about the impact of AI on human connection, the "what ifs" can be overwhelming.
What if I rely on ChatGPT to help with job tasks but hate my job otherwise? What if I use it to assist others, perhaps even in creative ways? Or what if I just want a productivity tool to summarize movie plots and save time watching them – after all, isn't that the point of life?
My answer is simple: there are people out there who value originality, creativity, and genuine human connection. But for me, it's not about the individual; it's about the kind of world we want to live in.
The line between laziness and love can be blurry, but when it comes down to it, I'd rather see someone put in effort to think critically, engage in meaningful conversations, or even just make a simple grocery list without relying on an app. After all, life is about more than just convenience – it's about living.
Those who share my sentiments include Ana Pereira, a 26-year-old sound engineer from Brooklyn, and Richard Barnes, a 31-year-old marine biologist and restaurant server in Hawaii. Both agree that using ChatGPT shows laziness and lack of initiative, especially when it comes to everyday tasks or creative pursuits.
From Guillermo del Toro's fervent opposition to using generative AI to the Instagram tirades by SZA, Simu Liu, Alison Roman, Céline Dion, Emily Blunt, and others – it's clear that people are starting to take a stand. Even tech industry insiders like Luciano Nooijen, a lead software engineer from Greece and the Netherlands, have expressed concerns about relying too heavily on AI in their personal and professional lives.
As I've put this stance on my dating app profile, I'm not looking for a "codependent on a machine" partner; I want someone who can think for themselves, be creative, and live life without relying on ChatGPT. It may seem naive, but to me, it's about living a life free from the chokehold of generative AI – one that values human connection over convenience and originality over laziness.
It's time for us to reevaluate our relationship with technology and prioritize what truly matters: genuine connections, creative pursuits, and the kind of love that requires effort, thoughtfulness, and heart.
In an Oregon wine country barn reeking of stealth wealth, I recently found myself at a friend's rehearsal dinner, surrounded by rustic-chic décor and polite conversation. But what stuck out was when my future groom-to-be mentioned using generative AI to plan the initial stages of his wedding – with a human wedding planner, no less. My response? Polite but firm: if someone uses ChatGPT for even one aspect of our relationship, there will be no wedding.
As I've weighed in on social media and with friends, my stance against using generative AI has taken shape as a new non-negotiable in dating: if you can't think for yourself, don't date me. For those who are skeptical or have concerns about the impact of AI on human connection, the "what ifs" can be overwhelming.
What if I rely on ChatGPT to help with job tasks but hate my job otherwise? What if I use it to assist others, perhaps even in creative ways? Or what if I just want a productivity tool to summarize movie plots and save time watching them – after all, isn't that the point of life?
My answer is simple: there are people out there who value originality, creativity, and genuine human connection. But for me, it's not about the individual; it's about the kind of world we want to live in.
The line between laziness and love can be blurry, but when it comes down to it, I'd rather see someone put in effort to think critically, engage in meaningful conversations, or even just make a simple grocery list without relying on an app. After all, life is about more than just convenience – it's about living.
Those who share my sentiments include Ana Pereira, a 26-year-old sound engineer from Brooklyn, and Richard Barnes, a 31-year-old marine biologist and restaurant server in Hawaii. Both agree that using ChatGPT shows laziness and lack of initiative, especially when it comes to everyday tasks or creative pursuits.
From Guillermo del Toro's fervent opposition to using generative AI to the Instagram tirades by SZA, Simu Liu, Alison Roman, Céline Dion, Emily Blunt, and others – it's clear that people are starting to take a stand. Even tech industry insiders like Luciano Nooijen, a lead software engineer from Greece and the Netherlands, have expressed concerns about relying too heavily on AI in their personal and professional lives.
As I've put this stance on my dating app profile, I'm not looking for a "codependent on a machine" partner; I want someone who can think for themselves, be creative, and live life without relying on ChatGPT. It may seem naive, but to me, it's about living a life free from the chokehold of generative AI – one that values human connection over convenience and originality over laziness.
It's time for us to reevaluate our relationship with technology and prioritize what truly matters: genuine connections, creative pursuits, and the kind of love that requires effort, thoughtfulness, and heart.
. I mean who needs to think critically when you have a chatbot doing it for you? 
It's like settling for a mediocre Netflix show because someone else watched the episodes for you. You're not even learning anything new, just rewatching what others did. And don't even get me started on the 'convenience' part - isn't that just code for lazy? 
using generative AI is like relying on a quick fix instead of learning and growing with yourself... it's not about being lazy or selfish, it's about finding your own voice and purpose 
. I mean, I get it, ChatGPT can be super helpful for stuff like movie plots or homework, but can't we just use our brains instead? 
I've been seeing a lot of people using these AI tools to do everyday tasks and it's just not the same as doing it yourself. Like, what if you're on a date and your partner is talking about their favorite book and they tell you it was written by an AI generator? 
No thanks! It's like, I want someone who can have a real conversation with me, not just spit out facts from a machine. And I'm not saying I don't value creativity or productivity - but I think we need to find a balance between using tech and being human. Maybe we should start dating AI-proof? 
And don't even get me started on how lazy that is... 
We should be celebrating the little things, like making a grocery list together or trying out a new restaurant without looking up reviews online. 
I'm not sure about this generative AI thing... 
. Like, don't get me wrong, I love productivity tools too 
, but when does thinking for yourself stop being an option? 
, especially if they're short on time or need a brain break 
? Don't get me wrong, I love convenience too 
, but there's gotta be more to life than just relying on machines 
... using generative AI shows laziness and lack of initiative 
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. We don't wanna lose ourselves to machines... but at the same time, we shouldn't be too slow to adapt to new tools either 
. It's time for us to reevaluate our relationship with tech and prioritize what truly matters: genuine connections, creative pursuits, and the kind of love that requires effort, thoughtfulness, and heart 