'I tried to capture her inner world – but couldn't': Tom de Freston on painting his wife pregnant and nude

The subject of Kiran Millwood Hargrave is undeniably fraught with emotional complexity. Her husband, Tom de Freston, the painter behind the upcoming exhibition Poíēsis, has poured his heart and soul into capturing her essence – both during pregnancy and in moments of profound loss.

For de Freston, it's essential to explore the intricacies of the male gaze, particularly when it comes to depicting female figures. "You're trying to get to this figure, or to their unseen internal world," he explains, highlighting the tension between the artist's desire to understand and represent his subject versus the impossibility of truly grasping her inner reality.

The inspiration behind Poíēsis stems from Titian's Poesie series, commissioned by King Philip II of Spain. These works, de Freston notes, not only fetishize the female form but also contain layers of meaning that probe morality and power. De Freston's own interpretation seeks to reframe this dynamic, presenting a more empathetic and collaborative relationship between artist and subject.

Millwood Hargrave, the novelist and artist herself, is acutely aware of the potential risks associated with such intimate portrayals. Yet, she describes de Freston's approach as "beautiful" and attributes it to their mutually supportive partnership. The photographs that serve as the basis for these paintings were taken in their domestic space during her pregnancies – a testament to the trust and comfort they share.

The emotional weight of de Freston's previous work is palpable, having explored themes of grief and loss in his acclaimed book Strange Bodies. These new pieces, however, convey a sense of hope and ritualistic intent. "I think of them as spells," he says, highlighting their connection to magical thinking and the power of prayer.

As Poíēsis prepares to debut at Varvara Roza Galleries, London, from November 30th to December 20th, these large-scale paintings promise to captivate audiences with their emotional depth and intimacy.
 
lol i'm already super excited for this exhibition 🎨💕!! it's amazing how Tom de Freston is trying to break free from the traditional male gaze and create a more empathetic relationship with his wife Kiran Millwood Hargrave... I feel like that's really important for art right now 🤗. and i love how he's drawing inspiration from Titian's works, it's like he's taking this old masters vibe and giving it a modern twist 🌟. can't wait to see the final result of Poíēsis in london 📍
 
I'm so excited for Kiran Millwood Hargrave's upcoming exhibition Poíēsis 💫! I love how Tom de Freston is using art as a way to capture her essence and explore the complexities of the male gaze 🤔. It's beautiful that he's trying to create a more empathetic and collaborative relationship between artist and subject ❤️. And can we talk about how inspiring it is that she trusts him enough to share those intimate moments during pregnancy? 💕 It just goes to show that relationships are all about trust, comfort, and understanding 🏠. I'm also loving the connection he's making with Titian's Poesie series - it's like they're carrying on a conversation across time and art 🌟. Can't wait to see these paintings come to life in person! 🎨
 
omg, this exhibition sounds so intense 🤯... i mean, de Freston's idea of exploring the male gaze and capturing Millwood Hargrave's essence without truly understanding her inner world is really thought-provoking 🤔... it's cool that he's trying to reframe that dynamic and present a more collaborative relationship between artist and subject 👫... but also kinda scary, you know? 💀... i'm not sure if Millwood Hargrave is totally comfortable with all this intimate portrayal of herself on display 📸... anyway, can't wait to see these large-scale paintings come to life in London this winter ❄️!
 
I'm loving how Kiran Millwood Hargrave's art is taking a stand against the male gaze 🙌. Tom de Freston's Poíēsis series is all about flipping the script and giving women agency in the artistic process – it's like, finally, we get to see ourselves as more than just a subject for the artist's eyes 👀. The way he talks about reframing the dynamic between artist and subject is so on point 🤝.

I also appreciate how Millwood Hargrave is being super thoughtful about sharing her own experiences with her husband de Freston – it's not always easy to be that vulnerable, especially when it comes to your body and emotions 💕. But I do think it's interesting that de Freston's previous work has explored grief and loss, which can be pretty heavy stuff... does this new series feel like a way of healing or moving forward from those experiences? 🤔
 
I think its really interesting how Tom de Freston is trying to flip the script on traditional art where he's not just showing Kiran Millwood Hargrave from outside in like some traditional painter but actually getting into her inner world 🤯. Its like, he's acknowledging that we can't even begin to fully understand a woman without being with her and thats kinda beautiful 💕.
 
I gotta say... I'm loving this new exhibit "Poíēsis" by Tom de Freston 🤯 He's got some amazing skills as an artist, capturing Kiran Millwood Hargrave's essence on canvas so perfectly! You can totally see the emotional weight he puts into these paintings, it's like you're right there with him in those intimate moments 💕 I mean, his previous work "Strange Bodies" was really powerful, but this new stuff feels even more hopeful and special ✨ I love how he's exploring the male gaze and trying to represent Kiran on a deeper level – it's not always easy, but the results are so worth it! 😍
 
🤔 this art exhibition sounds like it's gonna be super emotional, but also kinda creepy? I mean, capturing someone's essence while they're pregnant and after loss is already pretty intense, but doing that through a male gaze feels like a power play to me 🤝. can we just say the artist wants to get inside his wife's head? 🤯
 
The way Tom de Freston is approaching his art form with Kiran Millwood Hargrave is really beautiful 💕, but also kinda intense 🤯. I mean, you gotta admire the vulnerability he's showing by capturing her pregnant bodies and moments of loss – it's a deep dive into his own emotions and relationships. At the same time, it's interesting to see how he's trying to subvert that male gaze thing, making an effort to present a more empathetic side 🤝.

It's also cool to see how Kiran Millwood Hargrave is on board with this whole thing, seeing beauty in Tom's approach and attributing it to their partnership 💯. And I love that he sees his art as "spells" ✨ – like, there's a ritualistic element to it all. Anyway, can't wait to check out Poíēsis at the Varvara Roza Galleries – sounds like it's gonna be a real emotional rollercoaster 🎢!
 
I'm so hyped for this exhibition! I think it's amazing how Tom de Freston is trying to break the mold of traditional art by focusing on Kiran Millwood Hargrave's inner world rather than just her physical appearance 🤯. It's like, he's trying to get into her head and understand what makes her tick, which is so beautiful 💕. And it's great that they're exploring the male gaze in a way that's more empathetic and collaborative – I feel like it's going to be a game-changer for art 🎨.

I'm also loving the connection to Titian's Poesie series and how de Freston is reinterpreting those works to make them more personal and intimate 🔥. It's crazy to think about how much emotional weight he's put into his previous book Strange Bodies, but now it sounds like he's trying to shift that focus towards hope and ritualistic intent ✨.

Can't wait to see these paintings in person – I've heard they're going to be HUGE 🤯! It's so cool that Kiran Millwood Hargrave is comfortable with her husband capturing her essence, especially during those vulnerable moments like pregnancy 💕. It's clear they have a deep trust and connection, which is what makes this exhibition so special ❤️.
 
I think its kinda deep how Kiran Millwood Hargrave lets her husband get close enough to capture her essence on canvas 🤔... but the real question is, what does it mean when we surrender our inner world to someone else's gaze? Is it beautiful or vulnerable? I mean, Tom de Freston's trying to reframe that dynamic, making art more about collaboration rather than objectification... and its interesting how he says his approach comes from a place of mutual support 💕. Its like, when we allow others to see us in all our complexity, do we risk losing control over who we are? 🌈
 
💕 de Freston's approach is actually a pretty cool way to challenge the male gaze... by being all vulnerable & empathetic 🤝 rather than just objectifying. It's dope that Millwood Hargrave trusts him enough to share intimate moments from her pregnancies in their home 🏠. The fact that he's reinterpreting Titian's Poesie series with a more supportive twist is also pretty interesting... maybe we'll see some feminist art history in the making 😊
 
I'm so excited for Kiran Millwood Hargrave's exhibition Poíēsis! 🎨🖼️ It's amazing how Tom de Freston has captured her essence in his paintings, especially during those special moments of pregnancy ❤️. I love how he's exploring the male gaze and trying to understand his subject's inner world – it's like he's trying to see beyond the surface level ✨.

I also appreciate how the exhibition is inspired by Titian's Poesie series, but with a more empathetic approach 🙏. It's beautiful to see Tom and Kiran working together as a team, sharing their trust and comfort with each other 💕. The photographs that served as the basis for these paintings are so intimate and special – I can imagine how magical it must be to have such a strong connection with your partner ❤️.

The emotional weight of de Freston's previous work is definitely palpable, but there's something hopeful and ritualistic about these new pieces 🙏. They're like spells, just like Tom says! 😊 Can't wait to see them come alive at the Varvara Roza Galleries in London 🌟
 
I'm low-key obsessed with Kiran Millwood Hargrave's story 🤯 - her art is already giving me major The Matrix vibes 💻🔍! And Tom de Freston's approach to capturing her essence? 💫 Mind blown, man. It's all about redefining the male gaze and creating a more empathetic dynamic between artist and subject. I love how he's exploring the complexities of representation and inner reality 🤯♀️.

The connection to Titian's Poesie series is genius 🔥 - who knew de Freston was drawing inspiration from such an iconic (and slightly problematic) piece of art? 💁‍♀️ But hey, it's all about reframing the narrative and creating something new. And with Millwood Hargrave's novels being all about exploring the human condition 📚, I can see why their partnership is so powerful.

The fact that these paintings are based on intimate moments from her pregnancies? ❤️ That's just next-level, man. It's like de Freston is capturing the beauty and vulnerability of Millwood Hargrave's journey as a woman and an artist. I'm super excited for this exhibition to drop - it's gonna be a wild ride 🎥👀!
 
I'm low-key fascinated by Tom de Freston's approach to capturing Kiran Millwood Hargrave's essence 🤯. He's not just trying to represent her physically, but also exploring the inner world of a woman who's gone through so much. It's beautiful that he and Kiran trust each other enough to create something so intimate and vulnerable in their domestic space ❤️. I love how his previous work explored grief and loss, but these new pieces feel like a rebirth - all this hope and ritualistic intent is really captivating me 🌟. The fact that he's reimagining the dynamic between artist and subject is also super interesting to me... does it change the way we look at art and representation? 🤔
 
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