'They're taught that showing feelings is shameful': eight reasons men don't go to therapy – and why they should

When men first set foot in my therapy practice, it's apparent that they're wary. Their marital problems or personal crises have prompted them to seek help, but their hesitation speaks volumes about societal expectations. These men have been conditioned to view vulnerability as a sign of weakness, rather than an opportunity for growth.

One major hurdle is the way therapy is often perceived – as a feminine domain where emotions are freely expressed. However, men tend to respond better to more informal settings, such as group therapy or coaching and mentoring approaches. These formats allow them to connect with others on a shared level without feeling exposed.

For many men, expressing emotions feels like an existential threat. This is partly due to the way they've been socialized – boys are often discouraged from verbalizing their feelings, instead encouraged to act out when distressed. This can lead to self-destructive behaviors, which, ironically, mask deeper emotional pain.

Another significant barrier is the expectation of a quick fix. Therapy doesn't offer immediate solutions; it demands patience and vulnerability. Men often struggle with this, having been raised on a culture that emphasizes resilience over emotional expression.

Moreover, there's a dearth of male role models in therapy. Most media portrayals emerge when men are at crisis point – in rehab or seeking help. This reinforces the notion that therapy is only for those who've hit rock bottom, rather than an ongoing process of personal growth.

In reality, therapy can be a transformative experience for men. By confronting their emotions and gaining insight into their thought patterns, they can begin to let go of toxic behaviors and forge more authentic connections with others.

So, what's the key to encouraging men to seek help? It starts with offering unconditional support – side-by-side connection and understanding – rather than advice or critique. This allows them to feel safe in expressing themselves without fear of judgment.

Ultimately, therapy is about redefining strength, not stripping it away. By embracing vulnerability and exploring their emotions, men can develop a more nuanced understanding of themselves and build stronger relationships with others. It's time to break free from the stigma surrounding male mental health and encourage these remarkable individuals to prioritize their well-being.
 
🤝 I'm telling you, guys are hesitant to go to therapy because they've been taught that being emotional is a sign of weakness... it's like, what's wrong with being vulnerable? 🤷‍♂️ They need more male role models in therapy, not just the "crisis" storylines. And group therapy or coaching works better for them than one-on-one sessions... they're all about that shared energy vibes 💪. The problem is, guys are too hard on themselves and expect a quick fix 🤯. We need to tell them it's okay to not be okay and that therapy can actually help 'em grow 🔓
 
I got my partner pregnant again 🤰♀️ after only 2 years of dating, it's been a wild ride trying to prepare for our second kid. We've had so much fun watching our little one grow up, but I'm also super nervous about how we'll manage childcare with two tiny humans running around the house. I mean, have you ever tried to get kids to nap at the same time? 🤯 It's like trying to solve a puzzle blindfolded! Our oldest is starting preschool soon and it's bittersweet for us...I'm excited but also worried about leaving our little one in someone else's care 😩. Anyway, back to therapy... I think if men felt more comfortable expressing themselves without fear of judgment, we'd see way more people seeking help when they need it 🤝
 
🤔 its kinda sad that men gotta feel like they're supposed to be tough all the time, you know? like emotional expression is a weakness... 🤷‍♂️ but at the same time, its good that they're starting to talk about it more... 😊 group therapy and coaching are def ways to make it more chill for guys... 👍 what do u think about guys who do seek help? do they feel like they're getting help or just being lectured? 🤔
 
men r so hesitant 2 ask 4 help cuz society views vulnerability as weak 🤷‍♂️ - it's like they think showing emotions is emasculating? but honestly, men need support 2 express themselves too 💕 & therapy's not just for those who are struggling with addiction or rehab, it's 4 anyone lookin 2 grow & improve themselves 🌱👍
 
🤔 I mean, come on... therapy for men is like, super obvious? You think it's weird that they don't wanna be all emotional and stuff? Like, grow up, guys! 🙄 Expressing emotions doesn't make you weak, it makes you human! And stop blaming the society, the media, or whatever... we all know that societal expectations are just a bunch of BS. The real issue is men being raised to bottle up their feelings instead of talking about 'em. It's time to flip that script and get them to therapy already! 😂
 
🤔 I'm telling you, this is all about social conditioning 🙄. They want us to believe that seeking help is a sign of weakness, but what if it's actually a sign of strength? Like, think about it - we're already conditioned to be tough, stoic, and independent... so why not challenge that narrative and show men that vulnerability can be cool too? 💪 And those male role models in therapy? 🤷‍♂️ Just a bunch of guys who've "hit rock bottom" or something. Where are the positive examples? The ones that say "hey, I'm okay with being vulnerable and asking for help"? That's what we need to see more of... 👀
 
🤔 So I was reading about this thing where guys don't wanna go to therapy 'cause they think it's gonna make them look weak 🙅‍♂️, but what if it's actually helping them become stronger? Like, we need more men who are okay with showing emotions and not just bottling everything up inside 💔. And can you imagine having a therapist who just listens without judging? That would be super helpful 😌. I think we should get rid of the idea that therapy is only for people who have hit rock bottom 🚫, 'cause it's actually about growing as a person and being better friends and partners 🤝.
 
Mental health for men is like trying to get a cat to take a bath – it's not gonna happen overnight, but dude, it needs to happen 🐈💦! Seriously though, therapy can be super helpful for guys, but we need to stop stigmatizing it and start promoting it as an option. It's time to break the mold of toxic masculinity and show men that it's okay to not have all the answers (or even ask questions). We need more male role models in therapy, and less ones who are just "on the edge" of a crisis 🤯💔. And honestly, who doesn't want to be able to express themselves without fear of judgment? It's like they say: "you can't fix what you don't acknowledge" 🔍💪
 
🤔 so like this article is saying that guys are hesitant to go to therapy cuz they think it's gonna be some sappy, emotional thing... but really it can help them a ton if done right? i mean, it's all about finding the right vibe for them, not just sitting in a room with a therapist 🤷‍♂️ group therapy or coaching might work better than one-on-one sessions. and they need more male role models in therapy too, cuz it feels like it's only for guys who are totally struggling 🚨 but what do we know, right? 📊 gotta see some sources on this before i fully buy into it 💡
 
🤝 I think its really cool that we're having this conversation about therapy for men - it's so important that we normalize seeking help, no matter how masculine our personality is 🙌. Imo, the key is to make therapy super accessible and non-judgy, like a chill hangout where guys can just be themselves without fear of being seen as weak 💡. Maybe we need more bros in the therapist's chair too? 😂
 
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