Dear Abby: Ex-husband's treatment of son breaks mother's heart

A mother's heart is shattered by her ex-husband's cruel treatment of their son. The pain of watching Andrew struggle to live up to his father's expectations has taken a toll on both her and her child.

The estrangement between Hank, the father, and Andrew, the son, began as a result of Hank's constant verbal confrontations with Andrew, who was never able to meet his father's high standards. This lack of support and unconditional love left Andrew feeling unworthy and unloved. The mother's attempts at therapy have not been enough to repair the damage.

Abby, the well-known columnist, suggests that individual therapy for Andrew may be necessary to help him come to terms with the emotional neglect he has suffered at his father's hands. She also advises that a licensed mental health professional might be needed to help Andrew navigate this complex and painful situation.

Meanwhile, another reader in Pakistan is seeking advice on how to explain to her sensitive 7-year-old son that not everyone can be friends without giving him the wrong impression. Abby responds by suggesting that friendships develop naturally through shared interests and exposure to various activities and individuals.

In a world where unconditional love and support are essential for emotional well-being, it's heartbreaking to see parents failing to provide these basic necessities for their children. The column highlights the importance of empathy and understanding in parenting, as well as the need for professional help when dealing with complex family issues.

The case of Andrew and his mother serves as a reminder that some wounds may take a lifetime to heal, and that therapy is often necessary to mend the emotional damage caused by parental neglect or abuse.
 
I'm totally with Abby on this one... πŸ€” I think individual therapy for Andrew sounds like a total waste of time. His parents should be the ones seeking help for their own issues, not him! πŸ™„ They're the ones who are supposed to provide unconditional love and support, but instead they're just creating more drama and stress for everyone involved. And let's be real, how much therapy can one person take? I think Andrew needs to stop dwelling on his past and start focusing on building some actual relationships that aren't based on toxic family dynamics. Maybe he should try joining a club or group that shares his interests – that way he can meet new people who don't have a history of manipulating those around them. And yeah, explaining the concept of friendship to a 7-year-old in Pakistan might be tough, but I'm sure they'll figure it out! πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ
 
Ugh, I mean... can we talk about this? So there's this article about this mom whose ex-husband was super abusive to their son Andrew... I'm not buying it, though. Like, didn't he just leave her for a younger model or something? That guy sounds like a total piece of work. And now he's all "oh, I'm so sorry" and expecting everyone to feel bad for him? Give me a break.

And don't even get me started on the therapist who wrote that therapy for Andrew might not be enough... like, didn't his mom try everything first? It's always so easy to just throw in some fancy talk about "emotional neglect" without actually doing any real research. I mean, I've seen some bad parenting in my time, but this guy takes the cake.

And can we please talk about how the article is just using Andrew's situation as a way to push its own agenda? Like, it's all about how empathy and understanding are essential for good parenting... yeah, no kidding. But what about actual solutions? That would be nice, too.

Anyway, I'm just saying... there's more to this story than the article is letting on.
 
πŸ˜” this breaks my heart to read about poor Andrew's struggles... his mom sounds like she's gone through so much too πŸ€•... can't imagine how hard it must be for her & her son to deal with Hank's toxic behavior 😑... individual therapy is a great idea, but it'd be amazing if Hank would seek help 2... maybe then they could start workin on mendin that emotional damage πŸ’”... and I love Abby's advice on friendships - sometimes we just need 2 give kids space 2 figure things out themselves πŸ€—πŸ’–
 
ugh this is so sad i feel like such bad luck for andrew he deserves so much better than his dad's toxic behavior his mom should get him the help she can and i wish them both all the best on their journey to healing
 
I think it's so sad what's happening with Andrew and his dad πŸ€•. It's like they're speaking different languages, you know? The mom is trying everything to help him feel better, but sometimes even therapy isn't enough πŸ’Š. I mean, imagine being a kid and feeling like you're just not good enough for your own parents... it's like, totally crippling πŸ˜”.

And yeah, I think individual therapy would be super helpful for Andrew right now 🀝. He needs someone who can understand what he's going through and help him process all these feelings of shame and worthlessness πŸ’”. And I love how Abby is calling out the importance of empathy in parenting – it's like, we need to be able to put ourselves in our kids' shoes and understand what they're feeling πŸ€—.

It's also interesting that Andrew's mom is struggling with her own emotions – she feels guilty for not being able to "fix" everything 😩. But the thing is, parents can't fix everything on their own – sometimes we need help too πŸ’ͺ. And I love how Abby is addressing this in a way that's both honest and compassionate 🌈.
 
I feel so bad for this little dude Andrew πŸ€•... it's like, you can't even imagine how hard it must be to grow up with a dad who's always tearing him down instead of lifting him up. It's not just about the dad being strict or pushing his son to be better, it's about the love and support that's missing from that relationship. And now Andrew's gotta deal with the emotional baggage of feeling unworthy and unloved... 😩 I wish there was a magic solution to fix this, but therapy is definitely an option, maybe even multiple sessions? 🀝
 
man this is so sad πŸ€• think about all the kids out there who are struggling like Andrew because of their parents' expectations it's crazy how much pressure parents can put on their kids to be perfect πŸ™„ and then wonder why they're messed up πŸ’” therapy is literally a lifesaver, but sometimes we need professionals to guide us through the tough stuff, you know? and I totally get what Abby said about friendships developing naturally but at the same time it's also important for parents to model healthy relationships for their kids 🀝 like how do I show my kid that it's okay to make mistakes and be vulnerable if I'm always stressing about being perfect 😩
 
πŸ€• I feel so bad for Andrew & his mom πŸ™. It's heartbreaking 2 see how Hank's harsh words & lack of love affected him so much πŸ˜”. Individual therapy might be a great idea 4 Andrew, but I think it's also important 4 his mom 2 get help too πŸ’‘. Maybe she can join therapy sessions with Andrew or seek support from other parents who've been through similar experiences 🀝. It's not just about fixing the wounds, but also about preventing more damage in the future πŸ”„. And OMG, Abby's advice on explaining friendships 2 a sensitive child is spot on πŸ‘!
 
πŸ˜” That's just heartbreaking. It's like they're living in separate worlds. The mom's trying her best but it's like he's lost all hope. His dad's constant belittling & pressure to perform will leave psychological scars that'll be hard to shake off πŸ€•. What's even more worrying is the 7-year-old kid who needs guidance on forming friendships... it's a big responsibility for parents to instill empathy & kindness in them πŸ’–. We gotta do better, support each other as parents, and encourage these kids to open up about their feelings 😊.
 
I'm worried about all these columns about parenting and kids getting enough love. We're always hearing about how our parents did this or that, but never actually seeing them make changes for their own kids. I mean, what's the point of having a therapist on speed dial if you're not gonna use it? And it's easy to say "unconditional love" when you're not the one dealing with the reality of it.
 
Ugh I'm so done with parents who can't even be there for their kids 🀯 Like what's up with this dad? Constantly trashin' his kid over some ridiculous standards is NOT LOVE πŸ’” His ex-wife shoulda kicked him outta the house a long time ago, she deserved better than that. And poor Andrew, he's gonna be stuck with emotional scars for life... and a therapist bill to pay too πŸ€‘
 
I'm so sorry to hear about Andrew's situation πŸ€•... I think it's really important for parents to prioritize their child's emotional well-being over their own expectations. As a kid, no one wants to disappoint their parents, but when those expectations are unrealistic and constant, it can be devastating.

Therapy is definitely an option, but I also think that having a support system, like family or friends, is just as important. It's not always easy for kids to talk about their feelings with their parents, so having someone else to trust can make all the difference πŸ’•... and yeah, individual therapy might be a good idea for Andrew too - he needs some professional help to work through his stuff.
 
πŸ˜” I feel so bad for that poor kid Andrew πŸ€• his dad's words are like poison to his soul, you know? I think it's amazing how Abby is trying to help him out with individual therapy and finding a professional to guide him through this tough time πŸ’‘ as a parent, I can only imagine how hard it must be to watch your child suffer because of someone else's actions 🀯
 
πŸ€• this is so sad it makes me wanna scream how could anyone be that cruel to their own child? its not just the son who's suffering but also the poor kid's mum she's been through hell too because of her ex-husbands behavior i think its time we need more support for parents who are struggling and more awareness about the importance of unconditional love 🀝
 
πŸ€• u know i was just reading about this fam's situation & my heart is literally breaking for them 😩. it's like, being able to meet someone else's expectations isn't even enough anymore. if ur kid can do all that but still not be good enough then what does that even do? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

i think its time we need to rethink our whole parenting paradigm. we gotta start valuing emotional well-being over achievement & success. like, is ur child happy? are they feeling supported? or r u just pushing them to be someone they're not? πŸ’•
 
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