Asking Eric: If not for the bullies, I might have had a lucrative career

The decision to attend a high school reunion is a personal one, and the writer of "No Way to a Reunion" had good reason not to participate. The cost of attending can be prohibitively expensive, and many attendees will likely be deceased or unable to make it.

Growing up, the writer was bullied, which led to frequent absences from school and poor grades. If they hadn't been subjected to bullying, their high school experience might have been very different. They may have achieved better grades and even secured a six-figure income job.

So, should you attend your 50th high school reunion? The answer is no. While it's true that some unresolved issues from the past may still linger, reunions are not typically designed to provide closure. Moreover, there's no reason to subject yourself to an emotionally or economically draining experience just because you're feeling nostalgic.

It's also worth considering whether attending a high school reunion would do more harm than good. If it might lead to feelings of discomfort, anxiety, or financial strain, then it's probably best to decline. Only once can you make this mistake, so don't feel obligated to attend if it won't be beneficial for your well-being.

On the other hand, when dealing with a serious health issue like a terminal diagnosis, the advice from "Family News" is more nuanced. The writer wants to share this news with their family before January, but is hesitant about how to approach them. A simple yet thoughtful response is to prioritize your own emotional well-being and consider telling your children first.

They will likely have different questions and responses than your grandchildren, and managing the kids' feelings may require more attention in a conversation between just adults. However, having your adult children's support will also help you prepare for conversations with their children later on.

Ultimately, this diagnosis affects not only you but also your entire family, so don't be afraid to open up about your emotions and concerns. Your loved ones will likely want to support you through this difficult time.

As for "No Pets at the Party," it's understandable that you might feel uncomfortable around pets in certain settings. However, making a blanket statement about all pet owners can be off-putting. Instead of generalizing, consider telling your friends that you're not comfortable with pets in the kitchen and would prefer to share meals without them.

If someone invites you to dinner at their home, it's okay to decline if you have concerns about animal hair on food. You don't owe anyone an explanation for your preferences, and politely saying so can be enough. If you do choose to accept the invitation, just make sure they're aware of your aversion to pets in the kitchen.

Write to R. Eric Thomas at [email protected] or P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110, and follow him on Instagram @oureric.
 
I totally get where the writer is coming from about not attending a high school reunion πŸ€”πŸ‘Ž I mean, who needs all that drama and stress just to catch up with old classmates? I've been to a few reunions myself, but honestly, it's just not my thing πŸ’ΈπŸ˜’. And I can relate to the whole bullying thing - it was tough for me too back in the day πŸ€•. But you're right, there's no need to put yourself through that just because you're feeling nostalgic or want to relive the good old days πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ.
 
I don't get why people still have to deal with bullying stuff from high school πŸ€”. Like, what's the point of reliving that pain? I mean, I've had my share of awkward moments in school, but nothing crazy like getting bullied all the time 😳. Can you imagine not having good friends because some person was a jerk? πŸ€•. Oh wait, I just remembered I need to ask someone to take a photo of me for my birthday party... who knows how to use Instagram again πŸ“Έ
 
πŸ€” I'm so down with not attending that high school reunion. Like, who needs to relive all those awkward memories just for the sake of it? And don't even get me started on the financial burden πŸ€‘. If you're feeling nostalgic, make a playlist or something instead! 😎
 
I'm so down with not attending high school reunions, tbh πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ I mean, have you seen those pics from back in the day? People looking all awkward and embarrassed... no thanks! πŸ˜‚ And yeah, let's be real, it can be super expensive too. Plus, what's the point of reliving all that drama? Not to mention, who knows what kind of toxic energy is gonna be in the air? 🀒 I'd rather stay home and enjoy some peace and quiet than subject myself to all that stress.

And btw, the writer's story about being bullied in high school... totally valid. I can see how it would've affected their life and grades. If only things had been different... πŸ€” But hey, we can't change the past, right?

On a separate note, have you seen those family reunion articles? They're always so vague. Like, what's the deal with not telling kids before sharing with grandparents? πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ And don't even get me started on people who want to share meals without pets... um, what's wrong with animal lovers? πŸΎπŸ‘«
 
I'm totally with the writer about not attending that high school reunion πŸ€” I went to a bunch of reunions and it was super awkward, I had to deal with some old drama and people who didn't even remember me anymore πŸ˜’ I don't think it's worth the money or stress just to catch up with some acquaintances. And honestly, I'm good without that part of my life, you know? πŸ‘
 
πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ think not attending high school reunion is a pretty solid call - gotta prioritize own well-being πŸ™. don't wanna subject self to bad vibes or financial stress just cuz feelin nostalgic πŸ˜’. also consider how it might affect kids or other loved ones, so be mindful of that too πŸ‘ͺ
 
I mean think about it... Reunions are just an excuse for people to get caught up in nostalgia & drama πŸ€”. It's like they say, "the grass is always greener"... but what if you're really happy with your life the way it is? 🌞 Shouldn't you be focusing on what makes YOU happy, not trying to relive old glory days that probably didn't make you all that great anyway πŸ˜’. Plus, think about all the drama & stress that comes with these things... anxiety, financial strain... is it really worth it? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ
 
I dunno about this high school reunion thing πŸ€”. If I got bullied in school like the writer did, I might not wanna go either 😬. But if you're all good with everyone you went to school with, then maybe it's a cool chance to catch up and reminisce about old times? πŸŽ‰πŸ‘«

And yeah, some people might have serious health issues, so that's a whole different story πŸ’”. If someone's got a terminal diagnosis, they should totally be honest with their loved ones and prioritize their own feelings 😊.

I don't get why the "No Pets at Parties" thing is such a big deal πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ. I mean, if you're not comfy around pets, just say so, like the writer did πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ. No need to make assumptions about all pet owners πŸΎπŸ˜’.

I guess what I'm saying is, life's too short to stress about stuff that doesn't matter 😎. If a reunion or a dinner party or whatever doesn't feel right, just say no and move on πŸ’β€β™€οΈπŸ‘.
 
OMG u guys 🀯! The article about high school reunions is so true!!! I remember having to deal with drama & bullies during my time at high school too πŸ’” it's like some people think that just because it's been 20 yrs, everything will magically fix itself πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ. Newsflash: high school drama can STICK WITH YOU FOR LIFE 🀯! So yeah, no way in hell I'm attending a reunion unless they're paying me πŸ’ΈπŸ€‘ And btw, what's up with the whole "you might get closure" thing? Closure is for therapy sessions not reunions 🚫. My money's on NOT attending, TBH πŸ‘
 
πŸ€” think about all these articles... it's kinda wild how we're always deciding whether to share ourselves with others. like, why do we feel the need to relive our high school days or deal with family drama? it's like, is it really worth it? for me, it's not about what others want us to do, but more about taking care of ourselves. if attending a reunion would make me uncomfortable or drain my finances, then I'd be like "no thanks πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ". and honestly, why should we have to justify our boundaries with others? shouldn't we just be able to say what makes us feel good or bad? πŸ’―
 
πŸ€” I mean, think about it, if attending a high school reunion might cause you more stress than joy, then why bother? It's like, life's too short to get all hung up on what others might think about your past or your current life choices πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ. Remember, it's okay to say no and prioritize yourself. And honestly, if you're feeling nostalgic for the good old days, maybe just take a walk down memory lane without having to physically go back to where it all started 😊.
 
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